Equalise Counselling
Jessica Sings
How do I work?
"Personalised counselling to suit your needs"
At the heart of therapy is human connection. A space for real conversation about the things that matter most to you – something we are deeply lacking in this vastly growing digital society.
My role isn’t to give you answers or make decisions for you, but to empower you to make your own choices and trust your own voice. Our work together is a collaboration. While there may be moments of quiet reflection, therapy with me is an active, shared process where I not only listen but I respond with psychoeducation, brain-based strategies, tools and techniques to integrate in to your daily life. Ultimately, I’m here to help you help yourself.
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When it feels right, I may gently encourage you to step outside your comfort zone but always within a space that feels safe and supportive. This might include guided visualisations, where you imagine an experience using all your senses or use creative tools like art materials, photos or meaningful objects. Body based techniques like breathwork, movement and mindfulness will also be offered. These are just options, offered gently, and always tailored to what feels right for you.
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Below, you'll find an overview of the main modalities I use.
Psychodynamic
Psychodynamic theory is based on the idea that our past experiences, especially those from childhood, can have a big impact on how we think, feel, and act today. Sometimes, we develop habits or patterns of behavior without fully understanding where they come from. They can affect our relationships, choices, and emotions. In therapy, we explore these past experiences and patterns to help you gain insight into why you might be feeling stuck or struggling.
During a session, we might talk about your early memories, your relationships, or recurring feelings and behaviors that seem to show up in your life. The goal is to understand how your past is influencing your present, so we can work together to make positive changes. It’s a process of uncovering old patterns and replacing them with healthier ways of thinking and behaving.
Parts work
Parts work is the idea that each of us have aspects of our personality that hold different thoughts, feelings and beliefs about ourselves. Some parts might feel sad, anxious, lonely or angry while others try to protect us from feeling those difficult feelings. Protective parts may use overworking, perfectionism, people pleasing, self-sabotage and criticism. We also have reactive parts that numb or distract us from pain. These are addiction, violence, self-harm, procrastination, recklessness and impulsivity.
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Approaches like Transactional Analysis (TA) and Internal Family Systems (IFS) use this concept to help us understand ourselves. In therapy, we might talk about these different parts and how they interact with each other, sometimes uncovering old patterns or defenses that were useful in the past but may not be helpful now. Through curiosity and reflection, we can learn to work with these parts more consciously, so that they support each other and help you feel more balanced and in control. For example, you might want to practice saying “a part of me feels anxious” rather than “I am anxious”. See how that lands.
Somatic
Our emotions aren’t just in our minds; they’re stored in our bodies. Neuroscience shows that when stress isn’t released, the amygdala, (the brain’s alarm system) stays active, keeping us on edge. In the wild, animals naturally shake or tremble after a threat to discharge this energy from their nervous system and we can do this too. By paying attention to physical sensations, we can uncover how the body expresses deeply painful memories and emotions.
The mind and body are closely connected, and research shows there is a clear link between stress, trauma and chronic illness. In therapy, I might guide you through body-focused techniques like breathwork, grounding exercises, or mindful movement to help release stored tension and promote healing. These somatic practices support both the body and the mind, helping you work through trauma and build a deeper connection to your physical and emotional well-being.