Equalise Counselling
Jessica Sings
How do I work?
One size does not fit all!
I am a qualified Integrative therapist which simply means I use a few core counselling modalities to tailor my approach when working with you, depending on what fits with you and your unique situation. The foundation of my work will always be a person centered and a humanistic approach meaning, you are in the driver’s seat.
You know what’s best for you, even if you think you don’t. I want to help empower you to make your own decisions, not make them for you.
We are all human beings and this connection we have with one another is a powerful and a healing one. I like to offer to the room some of who I am in order for you to revel who you are. More will go on than simply listening and long pauses (although those are compelling), we will be working together collaboratively to help you, help yourself. My other main modalities are listed below.
Psychodynamic
The concept of psychodynamic theory is that our past can impact our being in the present. First, we connect the dots. After all, knowledge is power. “Why am I like this?” is often important for clients to know, and our childhood can shed some light on this. Childhood experiences shape a large part of ourselves as adults, often creating unhealthy feelings and behaviours. But with time and patience we can heal using practices that involve inner child work. Psychodynamic theory helps us identify and unpick unhealthy habits and behaviours that have followed us since we were young, so that we can build upon better ones.
Parts work
Parts work is the idea that the self (i.e. us!) is made up of different parts (personalities) that coexist within us. Kind of like wearing different hats! Some parts may support each other and work collaboratively. Other parts may not work well together or even be destructive in nature. Parts work attempts to resolve these conflicts so that all can work together harmoniously in the system that is you! Most of my part work influence comes from a model called Internal Family Systems (IFS) which coins the famous phrase ‘there are no bad parts’. Parts are often established as coping mechanisms to keep us safe and would have served us well in childhood. In adulthood however, they need to be channelled in a healthier way. That’s what we work on!
Somatic
Did you know that most prey animals tremble after almost being eaten? This is a somatic action that physically releases stress hormones out of the body and humans can do this too! Somatic techniques not only help to elevate emotional trauma that may be trapped in the body, but it also explores how the body expresses deeply painful experiences. The body and the mind are connected and there is much evidence to suggest the link between stress, trauma and chronic illness. Somatic therapy treats the body and the mind whilst aiding trauma recovery.